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  • While I think some kids for whatever reasons are bent towards being a bit more fussy, I agree in large part to the idea that the parents are colicky ones! I have two daughters and our first few months with our first was straight up crazy train. We couldn’t get her settled no matter what we tried. Amazingly though after a few months things magically settled down. Our second daughter had next to zero events.

    While the natural jump is to say one was fussy and the other wasn’t, we’ve concluded in our small experience that we we were just frantic with our first child as the total rookies and much more mellow as seasoned parents with our second.

    I was amazed at how quick medical staff and other parents were to throw the colicky label out just because in the early months our first child she was fussy. My vote is she was fussy because her parents were still very green! Your food, poop, burp checklist is a great rapid fire test. Most of the time the fuss lives in one of those. However we discovered a radical crazy reality, sometimes kids just cry and go off for reasons we can’t explain or fit into a nice diagnosable box.

    We should have saved the hundreds of dollars we spent on the “how to take care of your colicky baby” and chilled out a bit. The results over time have proven very successful for us.

  • I definitely see babies in my practice that cry differently and more than others so I do think there are actually colicky babies…but I also have families who cannot tolerate any amount of crying at all and want me to “fix” their babies. It’s not a bad thought to call them “colicky parents.”

    Here’s a recent post I did on colic…

  • Ryan

    Think about that statement….too quick to comfort their crying BABY….what is wrong with our world that someone had the thought that comforting infants is ever wrong. I get it with toddlers, young kids, certainly teenagers, adults but infants???? I actually believe that this statement alone speaks to a large unmet adult need in our culture.

  • There is SOME truth to the statement, but nowhere near any “ultimate” or concrete truth. I see dogmatic statements like this often set child development knowledge and understanding, instead of moving it forward. Statements like this also have a way of passively judging parents “If you think anything is ‘wrong’ with your kid, you suck as a parent”. We need to stop making so many dogmatic statements (that only serve to feed self-righteousness) and begin to appreciate the nuance, messiness, and “figuring it out” of child rearing.

  • Colick is like ADD….just because the term is often misapplied & overused doesn’t mean the real thing doesn’t exist.

    My eldest was an easy baby and even as a toddler was well-behaved and easygoing. I still remember my husband and I standing at birthday parties and playgrounds, watching babies cry “for nothing” and kids acting up, and wondering what was wrong with their parents.

    Then our second came along…the first few months she cried constantly, literally for hours at a time. We wore out the carpets walking her through the house, trying to calm her but even when we succeeded, as soon as we stopped walking she would start all over again. It was one of the toughest periods in our marriage.

    We were told she was colicky, and that it would pass. Thank God, it did…but my husband and I learned an important lesson about judging other parents.

    Those patronizing sceptics who “don’t believe” in things like colick and growing pains (which my same daughter also suffered later) should shut up and consider themselves lucky.

  • I’m convinced my child has colic. Granted, she has developed a whine over the past few days, and I’m sure that my wife and I are to blame for attempting to comfort her before her absurd screaming gets to be too much. However, we to go through the checklist of whether or not she needs changed, fed, burped, etc. The fact is, she just cries. She cries while we hold her, she cries while we put her in a vibrating chair, a chair that rocks her, a rocking chair with her in our arms, laying down, sitting up.. you get the idea. Either way, my wife and I have different methods to how we deal.. with each other, with her, and with our reactions. The good thing is the patience we quickly learned. The smiles, and innocence, seem to make it worth the bad times.